ok so I finally got this file deleted. I will tell everyone how, just in case the proble comes up for anyone else

I tried deleting via the command prompt just one more time to see if i could get some sort of feedback from windows about why it wouldn't delete. it hung for about 30 minutes but i let it go anyway. after that the prompt told me the file was in use, but i could't figure out by what

so i rebooted into safe mode and tried deleting via the prompt again. this time it only hung for about 5 minutes before telling me the file was still in use. But in use by what? safe mode only loads the core drivers and no startup programs

so i figured it could only be in use by windows explorer itself!? WTF! so i killed the explorer process and tried deleting via the prompt again. this time all went smooth. excellent i thought. so i rebooted normally and checked to see if it was deleted, guess what. it was still there. so i tried deleting it from inside explorer and it was gone within the blink of an eye.

so the moral of the story is....

if you have a file that won't delete because it is in use. kill explorer to free it up.

As for the green prgress bar, i found out it has something to do with loading your directory. I have no idea what purpose it serves, and i really want to disable it, becuase it just slows me down, so if anyone knows how to kil this crap i would appreciate it